I don't have the magical formula that when applied to a hard thing, like getting divorced, will make it all go away. But what I do have are six different aspects of resilience that I believe can help you navigate this mess of LDS divorce.
From an outsider perspective, most people want to help those who are struggling with the after effects of a shattered marriage. We all strive to live up to our baptismal covenants to “mourn with those that mourn” but members may feel hesitant as they tip-toe around divorced members. It’s good to be aware of feelings and process with care when addressing these individual Saints.
There are some things, however, you should avoid saying to your LDS friend who just got divorced or disclosed to you that they are getting divorced (disclaimer: this list comes from men and women who have experienced divorced as members of the Church and may not reflect everyone’s opinions):